If I’ve learned one thing in my 22 years of living on this Earth, it’s that people will always come and go in our lives. It’s human nature to want something more than what we have already. It’s just part of our ‘coding’. this could mean anything from moving to a new city to a new job.. Of course — this usually means there’s always a possibility of people moving out of our lives.
I feel like I will never truly understand the idea of people just deciding that they are ‘no longer friends’. how do you just suddenly realize that you don’t like someone as a friend anymore? Maybe I’m touchy on the subject because I have had it happen a lot in recent years. I’ve had it happen a dozen times. I’m sure everyone has had this happen, at least once or twice in their life. be it from an argument or the friend wasn’t really “mine in the first place”, [more on that one in a bit] the feeling isn’t great — in fact sometimes, it affects you more than you thought it initially would!
Above, I mentioned about sometimes the ‘friend’ wasn’t really yours to begin with, and as much as it sucks to hear it; it’s true. here’s what I meant — have you ever dated someone for a long time, but then had it abruptly end? then, when it does end, everyone you met through that person suddenly acts like you don’t fucking exist. It’s frustrating, it’s upsetting, and [most of all] it’s dumb to know that people think this way is the ‘right’ way of solving problems.
It’s not all bad though — like all clouds with a silver lining, there’s a positive behind this way of thinking: by losing the ‘fake friends’, you actually learn who your real friends are; they’re the ones who stuck by you the whole time.. and I think that’s just one of the greatest things in life.
So before you just jump to a conclusion and assume you have no friends because they all ‘left’ you, think of it like this: maybe they were meant to leave.. to make room for new friends. I had to learn this the hard way and hope no one ever has to go through the pain of fighting with friends.. at least to the degree of losing them. As for the friends you have now, fight for them — you deserve them just as much as anyone; don’t believe otherwise.
This post started as a way to vent about a guy quitting at work whom I didn’t really like when I started, but we slowly became friends over time. When we actually became friends, was when he gave his 2weeks. Although we won’t be working together, shouldn’t mean we can’t still be friends. I then lead into some personal things, but sometimes – that’s not a bad thing. It’s good to let you’re feelings out once in a while, be it to a Councillor, a friend, or even through a blog! [just another thing I learned the hard way!]
Now, I really need to go get ready. I’m actually meeting up with a friend at Noon today.. and after a long [but really slow] weekend — My body feels gross!
THANKS FOR READING.